It looks
like you have already met most of the important and significant people in my
group of friends. There are still a few more but I’m glad that I get to write
after The Always-Late. Actually, I was really taken back when I saw the text from
The Leader telling me that it was my turn to write a post. Having people
reaching out to me doesn’t happen very often. Why, you ask?
Because I’m
The Forgettable.
For some
strange reasons, my friends always forget about me. The Planner almost always forgets
to send me an invitation or a reminder whenever the group plans to hang out. One
time in summer, I went to a pool party and, apparently, there was a BBQ the day
before. A few people, including The Planner, asked me why I was not there. When
I told them that I never got the invitation, The Planner acted confused as if
some mysterious force had stopped the invitation from getting to me. And it
was not the first time that kind of situation happened to me.
Another
time, a group of us went out to eat at a restaurant. After we finished eating
and while everyone else was trying to figure out the check, I went to the restroom.
When I came back, our table was empty! Nothing! Nobody! Gone! Yup, you guessed
it. My friends left the restaurant without me. They didn’t mean it. It wasn’t
a prank. They really forgot about me. I didn’t understand why it happened. Even
when The Always-Late is late, people remember to wait for her. You might think
that I’m very unfortunate. I just think that I’m a very forgettable person.
Before you
tell me that I need new friends or that my friends hate me, let me explain. I
am a hundred percent sure that my friends do not hate me. Beside the fact that
almost nobody remembers to reach out to me first or invite me to events, my friends
actually love me and care for me. When I reach out to them and ask them to hang
out or help me, they always happily agree to it. They never try to make excuses
and avoid me. And whenever we gather together, we have a lot of fun. I’m an
international student with no acquaintance in America. My friends have been
helping and taking care of me ever since I moved here. I know they care.
I know I’m in the weirdest situation here. My
friends don’t hate me but they always forget about me. I have no idea how to
explain that. Any suggestions? Something to make myself more noticeable and
significant? And, please, don’t tell me to get new friends!
Hi Tien. This story is very familiar to me. I feel like I myself am the "forgettable" one in my own group of friends. I have known my friends since high school and somehow whenever they get together they always forget to call me or invite me. Just recently I saw them post a picture with everyone hanging out on Facebook. I thought to myself, why didn't they call me? This is a mystery to me as to why I am the one left out. Maybe its because I am the only one in school? Who knows. As far as advice goes, I'm sure your friends care for you very much. Maybe if you become more assertive and more loud they wont forget you next time. Or maybe you should just talk to them and ask them what's up?
ReplyDeleteHey Tien. I cannot relate to your situation at all. Sometimes I do such pranks with my friends that I and my other friends hide so they freak out. But never didn't actually left without them. I don't know you personally , maybe you are a quite person that's why your friends really can't remember if you are with them or not. I think you are a positive person and take all this in a nice and funny way. If I were you, obviously I wouldn't mad at them because I know they didn't do it on purpose but I would keep on reminding them about forgetting about my existence and would probably ask them to make up for this. I am very spoiled sort even with friends. I really like your attitude.
ReplyDeleteHi Tien! Your blog had me cracking up, as I was able to easily assign my own friends into each of the categories. I am definitely the chronic complainer. I can't help it! There's just too much to complain about! As for the friend that's always late, that's the friend that drives me crazy. Especially when the friend who arrived late is the friend that planned the event and chose the time. I also identify with the planner, as I get really upset when things don't go exactly the way I planned. Overall, your blog was such a fun and interesting read! I loved how you made all the friends interact with one another. Hope you have a restful break!
ReplyDeleteWhen I was young I was the "forgettable" kid that the other kids never noticed. It'd take me so long to think of something to say that by the time I'd formed my sentence, the conversation had moved on. After I grew up, however, I worked super-hard to become "popular," and it worked. Hang in there. If you're an introvert (like me), you just need to learn to "throw yourself out there" and talk at the rate everyone else does. Maybe your particular issues are different than mine were, but there's always hope. It's hard, but things will change!
ReplyDeleteI would just try to keep being noticed while you're out doing things. Be heard, seen, and let them know how you're feeling. They're your friends and you're right when you say you don't need new friends and they don't mean to do it on purpose. It's hard to put yourself in that spot when you aren't used to it but the more you do it, the easier it'll get.
ReplyDeleteYou should definitely bring up our feelings to your friend group. If they really care for you they will make sure that you don't feel forgotten. I'm usually the organizer of my friend group, and like to make sure that everyone is having a good time. If I found out that one of my friends was hurting I would do my best to help them. So, I would go to the person that you are the closest to and let them know what you are going through. Other than that, your blog is super relatable and hilarious! Good job Tien!
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